Greetings Divine child —
How are you feeling today? Really, how are you feeling? Take a moment to scan your body for any sensation. Can you feel anything? Have you've forgotten how to feel?
Many of us go through our days repressing, denying, minimizing, or distracting ourselves from our feelings (often in order to survive the modern world). Some of us have gotten so good at not acknowledging our feelings that we're not even sure we have feelings anymore. But when we don't acknowledge our feelings, we block important communication from our true-selves, which prevents us from evolving. This keeps us stuck in old, limiting patterns that do not serve our highest good, and in order to progress on our path of self-evolution, we must acknowledge — and feel — our feelings.
Why You Stopped Feeling Your Feelings
In order to understand why you repress, deny, minimize, or distract yourself from feeling your true feelings, you must understand the ego-mind. The ego-mind is designed to keep you safe and, like an overprotective body guard, it acts only out of fear, anticipating danger around every corner. Its only goal is your survival. If you do not control the ego-mind, it will dominate your life, and you will live in a constant state of stress, thus preventing you from ever feeling safe enough to relax and tune in to your body so that you can feel your true feelings.
In order to feel your true feelings, you must quiet the ego-mind. The ego does not know what is real and what is not, so it will try to convince you that every imagined or potential danger is an actual danger from which you need protecting. It does not want you to feel your repressed emotions because, to the ego, those repressed emotions are dangerous. For example, let's say when you were five-years-old, you asked your dad for some gum at the grocery store. Your dad said no, which made you angry. And, as a five-year-old, you cried when you were angry. This upset your dad, so he yelled at you, and maybe even hit you when you cried. Therefore, your ego learned to repress this feeling — the feeling of anger — in order to survive. And ever since, you've unconsciously associated asking for what you want with danger. As children, these habits of repressing, denying, minimizing, and distracting yourself for the sake of survival quickly became limiting patterns by which you live your life now.
What the ego doesn't understand is that now that you are an adult, repressing your feelings actually does more harm than good. If you want to heal, evolve, and create the life you desire, you MUST feel your feelings. And in order to do that, you must let that inner five-year-old within cry until there are no tears left.
How to Feel (for real)
Feelings are called feelings because they are meant to be felt. Now, this doesn't mean you shouldn't practice emotional regulation (don't throw a huge public tantrum every time you don't get what you want). But you should allow yourself to express your true feelings in a safe environment so that you can work through your emotional blockages, break through your limiting patterns, and continue to evolve.
Feeling through your feelings doesn't have to be done in the moment. You can easily recreate your reactionary sensations of any uncomfortable experience just by thinking about the incident. Remember, the ego-mind does not know what is real and what is not. For example, if you think about chewing on a lemon, your mouth will salivate, even though you're not actually chewing on a lemon. This is a perfect example of how your thoughts can create your physical reality. By the same token, you can think of past experiences that caused you discomfort to trick your ego into thinking they're happening right now so that you can work through the associated emotional blocks.
The most important thing to note when it comes to feeling your feelings is this: it happens in the body. Your body is the keeper of your truth (including your past truths). The physical sensations you feel in response to your experiences communicate your true feelings to you, and it is through the body — through focusing on the sensation — that you actually feel through your feelings, and in so doing change your frequency. You cannot think through your feelings. You will use your mind to focus on the sensations, but the real work takes place in the body.
There are a variety of methods of becoming more acquainted with your true feelings in order to work through the associated sensations. Journaling is a powerful practice that allows you to monitor how your body reacts to the words you write as you physically record events or thoughts. Other methods might involve working through a guided exercise, meditating, practicing mindfulness, or simply just paying closer attention to your body throughout the day.
It is important to remember that your feelings aren't right, wrong, good, or bad; they just are. So when you're in your safe environment, feeling through the frustration or the anger or the grief, try not to judge yourself. Every time you acknowledge your feelings and let yourself feel through them, you are evolving, and that is something to be proud of.
Remember who you are — you are Divine Love.
Disclaimer: HLS does not treat, heal, cure, or provide any medical or psychological services whatsoever. HLS offers this information to you in the hopes that you will be able to discern what does and does not resonate with you.