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How Resistance Keeps You Stuck — and How to Break Free

Updated: Jan 24

Greetings Divine child —

You may have heard the saying "what you resist persists." But what does resistance mean in the context of your self-evolution? And how can you break free from the struggles your resistance creates? That's what we're going to talk about today.

Have you ever asked yourself, "Why do I keep reliving the same thing over and over again?" or "Why does this keep happening to me?" or maybe "Why won't this person leave me alone?" Well, the answer is simple: it's all about frequency.

You are a vibrational being, and everything you experience is a result of the vibrational frequencies you resonate out. What does this mean? It means that you create what you experience through your vibrations (even if what you're creating isn't what you want).

If you're not convinced by the powers of vibrational frequency, let me direct you to the atom, the building block of physical reality. The atom is 99% empty space. But because of the way it vibrates at certain frequencies, it gives the illusion of solid matter. Vibrational frequency is how our world works. It was Nikola Tesla who said, "If you want to know the secrets of the Universe, think in terms of energy, frequency, and vibration."

As a conscious being in the Universe, you, much like an atom, resonate at specific frequencies. And because of the Universal Laws, the frequencies you resonate at are created, affected, and amplified by your thoughts, emotions, actions, and beliefs.

One particular Universal Law that has a large part to play when it comes to the topic of resistance is the Law of Attraction (LOA). The Law of Attraction states that like vibration attracts like vibration. (This principle is by no means a "New Age" idea; it dates back to the Hermetic Teachings of the first century.) Possibly the most important thing to remember about the Law of Attraction is that it is working all the time. Every thought, every feeling, every action, and every belief you have is like a magnet, attracting similar thoughts, feelings, actions, and beliefs into your experience. So, why does what you resist persist? Because you're resisting it!

When you resist something in your life — maybe it's a coworker that drives you nuts, or a chore you loathe doing, or a past experience that still haunts you — your resistance is what's keeping you tied to that thing. And it's not always easy to know that you're resisting something because your ego-mind is so adept at keeping you in the dark.

Common forms of resistance:

  • Denial (repressing or denying your feelings)

  • Distraction (avoiding your feelings by clinging to entertainment or keeping busy)

  • Self-medication (numbing the feelings)

  • Minimization (down-playing what you feel)

  • Complaining (talking about your feelings, but not feeling them)

Look back on the past week and take note. Have you done any of the things listed above? If you have, now is the time to ask "Why?" Why did you spend an hour complaining to your spouse after work? Maybe it's because you're resisting the frustration you feel with your boss. Why did you instantly deflect any mention of your ex while talking to a friend? Maybe it's because you're resisting deep feelings of hurt from the breakup. Why do you spend every weekend at the bar, or glued to the television? Maybe it's because you're resisting the feeling of regret over something that happened in the past.

Whatever the case, these expressions of resistance do not serve you. In fact, they do the opposite. They keep you stuck in the realm of lower vibrations, which in turn attracts similar, lower vibrational experiences. As time goes on, the events and conversations might look or sound different, but the root of the issue remains the same: you are resisting an emotion you do not wish to feel.

So what do you do to move past this endless cycle of resisting, persisting, resisting, persisting? Hint: it's not "think positive," or "just accept it." No, the answer is this: You have to feel your feelings.

The frustration, the hurt, the regret. All of it. You will not be free until you feel.

When you're ready to finally stop resisting and feel your true feelings, follow these steps:

1. Settle in

Find a safe, quiet space and relax. Take a few deep breaths.

2. Set your intention

Declare your intention to clearly hear what your body is communicating to you. Use only positive words. For example: "I am allowing clarity and freedom."

3. Think of the thing that's been bothering you

What do you keep resisting? Why? What truth is hiding behind your resistance? Don't worry about sifting through your past or trying to make sense of your feelings. Just focus on the feeling that arises. Are you frustrated? Scared? Hurt? Angry?

4. Notice what happens in your body

Does your stomach flip? Does your jaw clench? Does your back start to ache? Is there a lump in your throat? Whatever the sensation is, focus on it. Follow it if it moves. Really try to pay close attention to it. The ego will undoubtedly try to distract you, but you can quiet it by using these steps.

(Remember, this is not about thinking the feeling, it's about actually feeling it. Feel the tightness, numbness, pain, tears, whatever the uncomfortable feeling is. Stay with it until the intensity starts to lessen.)

5. Know that this is normal

There is nothing wrong with the way you feel. It's completely normal, so do not judge yourself for feeling any particular way.

6. Be honest

No one has to approve of what you're feeling (including your own ego-mind!). You do not have to share this experience with anyone. Just feel exactly what you're feeling so that you can finally release it.

7. Feel it through

The very act of feeling the sensations in your body changes your frequency. Every time you feel your sensations, you break the pattern of repression or denial or minimization (of resistance). When you listen to your true-self by paying attention to your sensations, you give yourself the power you need to create the life you actually want.

This is the real work. The ultimate work. This is the work that changes your life. It is one of the most difficult practices to do because it involves transcending the ego-mind, breaking the patterns you've held for so long, and finally confronting your truth. But it is essential for self-evolution.

What you resist persists. But if you persist with this work, you will be free of resistance once and for all.

Remember who you are — you are Divine Love.

Disclaimer: HLS does not treat, heal, cure or otherwise provide any medical or psychological services whatsoever. HLS offers this information to you in the hopes that you will be able to discern what does and does not resonate with you.

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