How to Stop Playing the Victim!
Greetings Divine child —
When I say "stop playing the victim," I am not telling you to deny your experiences; I am urging you to reclaim your Divine creative powers.
When you embody the victim role, you'll feel like you're at the mercy of your circumstances, your surroundings, or those around you. But playing the victim role does not serve you. It is an old game people often hide behind in order to avoid taking responsibility for their lives. What you must understand about this game is that it doesn't serve anyone, especially you. You will only be able to take control of your life and create the reality you desire when you take responsibility for all that you've co-created thus far.
I want to be clear: taking responsibility for your reality has nothing to do with blame. No one, including you, is at fault. When you take responsibility for your reality, you accept your truth and reclaim your Divine creative powers. But you must stop blaming your less-than-perfect reality on things outside yourself — other people, past experiences, your circumstances, etc. — if you want to step into the next phase of your personal evolution. In order to do this, we first need to take a hard look at your current reality.
I recommend you write down your answers to the following questions.
Question 1: Who?
Who do I play the victim role with? (In other words: who do I blame for my unwanted feelings?)
My family? My partner? My co-workers? Society? Myself (ego)?
Question 2: When?
When do I play the victim? (In other words: when do I blame someone/something for my unwanted feelings?)
When I'm alone? When I'm with certain people? When I'm in a particular environment? When I encounter a familiar trigger?
Question 3: How?
How do I play the victim? (In other words: how do I perpetuate the patterns that do not serve me?)
By doing things I don’t want to do? By not speaking my truth? By giving too much of myself, my money, or my time? Do I retaliate? Do I retreat?
Question 4: What?
What happens when I play the victim? (In other words: what effects do these unwanted experiences cause?)
Do my relationships suffer? Does my self-worth dwindle? Does it feel like my life is spiraling out of control?
Question 5: Where?
Where do I feel it in my body when I play the victim? (In other words: what sensations do these unwanted feelings create?)
Are there knots in my stomach? A lump in my throat? Is my jaw clenched?
After you answer these five questions, you're ready to start rewriting your victim program. Now that you've identified the patterns that do not serve you, you can decide what to do with them. Do you want to allow them to continue? Or do you want to break free and create a better reality?
Know this: I am the only one who can recalibrate my vibrational frequencies (LOA) and attract into my life what I wish to experience.
Only you can allow your victimhood role to continue. If you choose to give your power away to others or your circumstances by blaming them for your unwanted feelings, you will allow a stronger victimhood neural net to take hold in your brain, and in turn you will attract more victim experiences into your life.
However, if you want to take back your power and step into the life you desire, you must take responsibility for everything in your life. I know this is a tough step, but once you do this, you are no longer a victim. It is impossible to be the victim if you take full responsibility for all that you are experiencing.
Once you decide to stop playing victim and reclaim your Divine creative powers, you can examine your past through a different lens. You can ask, from an evolutionary standpoint, why you attracted these unwanted experiences. What lessons did they teach you? What truths did they reveal? How did experiencing them help you evolve?
Keep in mind that you are a Divine being having a human experience — you are not your body or your circumstances. You are a powerful being who has the ability to learn the lessons you need to learn to evolve. Do this by asking yourself "Why am I attracting this experience into my life?" Now listen to your answer. Do this every time you feel like you are not in control of your reality.
Remember from the Universal Laws post that LOA (Law of Attraction ) is working all the time. Therefore, if you are carrying around a victim vibration, then you will attract a victim experience. If you deny it, but you keep having victim experiences, then I suggest you ask yourself the questions “Why did I attract this into my life?" and "What is my lesson?” When you take the time to really examine your current truth, you become aware of that which is keeping you stuck. This gives you the opportunity to choose to do the work and clear the low frequencies you are transmitting out (LOA). You achieve this by focusing on the sensations in your body. Stay focused on the sensation until you can no longer feel it. Great job! You just changed your frequency.
Dive deeper: Download your Free 3-part Trigger Worksheet to identify your old patterns and stop attracting unwanted feelings.
It is up to you to decide if you no longer want to play the victim role, and then it is up to you to do the work that needs to be done in order for you to take back control of your life. You have the power to create your reality, but only if you take full responsibility for it.
Remember how powerful you really are. You can choose to create a safe and loving life experience. Know that you are worthy of all that you want, and you are powerful enough to protect yourself. Create! You have the power.
Eternally yours,
— D.p.